Birth Mom…when you first read that what does it mean to you? What is your definition? What are your first initial feelings when you read Birth Mom? My first thoughts when it came to reading the word Birth Mom was fear. Fear about: what if she doesn’t like me? What if we don’t get along? What if she wants to be really involved with all decisions? What if she doesn’t like Hunter? What if her family doesn’t like us? So much fear in the unknown when I first heard the word Birth Mom.
You guys….my fear was STUPID!!!
Our story started out with putting our trust and faith in God. He already knew who our birth mom would be, who our child would be and when we would get to meet both. He knew it all! Me being human and fearful forgot about that until I started reading a devotional (Tandem: Adopting with God in the Lead) <– highly recommend! Anyways, once I put the fear of the unknown behind me things just started to happen, as you’ve read in past posts.
Our birth mom is AMAZING! I can say that I will never know that level of love she has for Wyatt, she made the decision for adoption. Her relationship with God helped her with that decision and let her know that he already had a family for her picked as well. The Expectant Parent Advocate she worked with at the agency really helped her with her counseling and coming to this decision. I’ve never said anything negative about her; she is a strong – wonderful – kind – amazing person and I am so thankful she is in our life. I won’t ever be able to put into the words the love I have for her, the respect I have for her and how protective I feel about her and her family. Don’t mess with this Momma Bear!
I have heard so many people talk so negatively about birth families, talking about their past or judging them for their decisions. It breaks my heart for those birth families, they chose to make a decision for the best interest of their child.
We just had a family birthday party for Mr. Jonah Wyatt last weekend. She came over to the house with one of her sons and her really great boyfriend. We watched the Vikings game, let the boys all play together, ate cupcakes opened presents and took some pictures. It has NEVER been awkward or uncomfortable – they are part of my family and our relationship has been so easy over the past year.
On this day last year….we got to meet little baby Wyatt for the FIRST TIME! On this day last year she told us she wanted us to be his parents! On this day last year my heart burst with the most amazing amount of love for her and for him and for our families growing together.
You guys, this past year has been an amazing ride and I can’t WAIT to see what happens for our family in 2020!