Birth Mom…when you first read that what does it mean to you? What is your definition? What are your first initial feelings when you read Birth Mom? My first thoughts when it came to reading the word Birth Mom was fear. Fear about: what if she doesn’t like me? What if we don’t get along? What if she wants to be really involved with all decisions? What if she doesn’t like Hunter? What if her family doesn’t like us? So much fear in the unknown when I first heard the word Birth Mom.
You guys….my fear was STUPID!!!
Our story started out with putting our trust and faith in God. He already knew who our birth mom would be, who our child would be and when we would get to meet both. He knew it all! Me being human and fearful forgot about that until I started reading a devotional (Tandem: Adopting with God in the Lead) <– highly recommend! Anyways, once I put the fear of the unknown behind me things just started to happen, as you’ve read in past posts.
Our birth mom is AMAZING! I can say that I will never know that level of love she has for Wyatt, she made the decision for adoption. Her relationship with God helped her with that decision and let her know that he already had a family for her picked as well. The Expectant Parent Advocate she worked with at the agency really helped her with her counseling and coming to this decision. I’ve never said anything negative about her; she is a strong – wonderful – kind – amazing person and I am so thankful she is in our life. I won’t ever be able to put into the words the love I have for her, the respect I have for her and how protective I feel about her and her family. Don’t mess with this Momma Bear!
I have heard so many people talk so negatively about birth families, talking about their past or judging them for their decisions. It breaks my heart for those birth families, they chose to make a decision for the best interest of their child.
We just had a family birthday party for Mr. Jonah Wyatt last weekend. She came over to the house with one of her sons and her really great boyfriend. We watched the Vikings game, let the boys all play together, ate cupcakes opened presents and took some pictures. It has NEVER been awkward or uncomfortable – they are part of my family and our relationship has been so easy over the past year.
On this day last year….we got to meet little baby Wyatt for the FIRST TIME! On this day last year she told us she wanted us to be his parents! On this day last year my heart burst with the most amazing amount of love for her and for him and for our families growing together.
You guys, this past year has been an amazing ride and I can’t WAIT to see what happens for our family in 2020!
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Thank you for the kind words for my daughter, your sons birth mom. Thank you for loving her and knowing she knew Jonah was always meant to be given more than what she could give him at the time. Knowing her decision was out of love for Jonah and blessed by God.Thank you for being the family you are, as I know God hand picked your family to be his parents. I felt it, but never said a word to her. She came to her choice on her own. Thank you for opening your home to her, allowing her to participate in his life. To let him grow knowing he is loved and was given the ultimate gift of love, sacrifice. Thank you for posting photos so I can see him grow and achieve all his milestones. Thank you and your family for being a gift to us and the best for Jonah. I want to give a very special thank you to Hunter for being the best big brother that Jonah Wyatt could ever have asked for. My heart is full.
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Oh my gosh this is so beautiful to see an adoption come to fruition like this. I work with an adoption agency called Special Delivery and I would love if I could repost this for other prospective adoptive moms and prospective birth moms to enjoy❤
Hello there! Thank you for the kind words, we have an amazing little family and we are blessed with such an awesome relationship with our birth mom. I’m ok with you sharing our story, I hope it helps other birth moms and adoptive families.